Friday, February 1, 2008

Bullying vs. Horseplay??

What is the difference between bullying and horseplay? If you were to see a horseplay to turn into bullying, would you stop it? Is it okay to be a bystander and not help someone who needs it?

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Reg says... I think there the same amount of bullying as there has ever been even though there is more talk about it, the only differnce now is people complain more.

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Emily says...
Horseplay is when people know you're joking. Horseplay is usally between friends

Bullying is being mean and rude to someone about their appearance or their shape.

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shauna says;
i think bullying is when there is one person or a group of ppl that pick on a different person or group of ppl and it's hurting them physically, or emotionally. Horseplay is more when two people are "fighting" just for fun not actually intending to hurt each other. In my opinion it's deff not okay to be a bystander, if you see someone being bullied don't just stand there and watch, stand up to the bully! Afterwards if they won't listen or then try to come after you... it's then time to tell an elder who can put a stop to it!

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Reg says... a solution is to touphen up and don't let them see that it bothers you (defencive) or have a comeback (not a stupid one) and walk away (offencive)

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Emily says...

The only solution to bullying is to find the bullies and tell them what they are doing hurts people. Find out why they bully peopl. Help them solve their problems.

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Alexia says:
I think that the difference between bullying and horseplay is that bullying is to hurt someone on purpose, and horseplay is just playing around not hurting eachother purposely.If i were to see horseplay turn into bullying i would try to stop it by getting a teachers help or someone older that would be helpfull. If your a bystander i don't think its ok to not help someone who needs it because they would need support after what happened to them.

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Chelsey says... the difference between horseplay and bullying is horse play: you both are having fun and no 1 gets hurt and bullying: is when one person is geting hurt and the other is being mean. the bystander has the most oppertunity to make the whole thing stop and most of the time they just watch and do nothing. if you are a bystander and you do nothing then i hope one day you get bullied and no 1 helps you, then you will know what it feels like to get picked on.

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Tim says... The difference between bullying and horseplay is that horseplay is horseplay and u are just having fun but bullying is trying to hurt someone mentally and phhysically if you are a bystander of bullying you should step up and do the right thing because just think you could be in the position of the victim so how woould you feel if you were in that position because usually the bully thinks he is tough picking on kids that are smaller and easy to pick on.

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brit'tney says:
The dif.between bullying and horseplay is tht when you bully youre doing something to intentinally hurt some1 but when youare horseplaying it is goofing around with friends or siblings.
Yes.If i saw horseplay turn into bullying i would step in and point out to the people wats happening and tht it is not rite..
No.It is not ok to be a bystander because if youre there and youre witnessing some1 being bullied u should stop the bullying so that the person being bullied doesnt have to go through it anymore..

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Maddi says....
I think the difference between bullying and horseplay is that when you are just playing around that person knows that is a joke and no feelings are getting hurt.

If I ever saw horseplay get turned into bullying...i would first make sure that they weren't playing around any more than i would put and end to it,and NO! it's not okay to be a bystander. If you see someone that is getting bullied.Even if you dont like that person you should stop it. It never feels nice to get bullied.

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horseplay is funn lol bullying is is bad so only horseplay lol ahahaha

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Reg says...re: emily I agree with Emily but if you confront the bully have a crowd with you because there is safety in numbers

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Kirstin says...
Bullying is being violent to another kid and they dont like it and there not joking around and horseplay is playing around and they know there playing around.I would try to stop horseplay that turns into bullying and get an adult. I dont think its okay to be a bystander and not do anything to help the person being bullied.The solution to bullying is to sit down with both the bullier and the kid being bullied and do something about it .

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Alex says...

I think that the difference between bullying and horse play is that, horsplay is wanted by both people, and it's a joke. Its supposed to be fun. But bullying is when you are verbally or physically abusing someone. It is rude and can hurt feelings.

If i was to see horsplay turn into bullying i would deffinetly try and stop it! because I hate seeing people get hurt, and i would just do what is right. Bullying is a stupid thing and i don't even understand why people would want to hurt other people's feelings.IT NEEDS TO END NOW !

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It is deffinetly not okay to be a bystander and not help the problem because you could be the reason why someone has a broken leg, or is emotionally hurt for life because you were the one who was too lazy not to do anything! so next time YOU see someone getting bullyed, try and stop it!

A way to make sure that horsplay does not turn into bullying would be to just make sure that it does not get out of hand!. to make sure that it is wanted by both people and to make sure it's a joke between those two people!

so put a stop to bullying, and dont be a bystander and help someone and keep the horseplay to minimum!

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Cass says ...
If i were to see horseplay turn into bullying of course i would stop it because i know personaly i cant watch people get hurt.
Is it okay to be a bystander , Know of couse not if you see some one getting picked on you should do something because its the right thing and you will feel better knowing that you did something to help a person who was getting picked on . And why wouldent you help someone who is getting picked on ?..

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jeremy says...
the diffrence between bullying and horseplay is that bulling is if you are meaning to hurt him. horseplay you are gust fooling around. If i say horseplay turning into bulling I would try to stop it because I hate it when people are geting hurt or made fun of. I think that if you gust stand there and wach somone get hurt or made fun of I think are as much responsible as the person that did it

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Emily says... re: Reg

Good point. If people pretend it doesn't bother them the bully will leave. Bullies are looking for a reaction.

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jon says...
bullying is when your being mean and herting people horesplay is when your being silly or bothering other people.

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brian says...
horse play is when you're just wresling with your freind bullying is when one person or a group of people phisically beat on one other person.
if i saw horseplay turn to bullying i would try to stop it as well as i could. ive been a bystander to and to tell you the truth sometimes i havent helped but if i could go back i would try and stop it in any whay possible.

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kelsey thinks ...

the difference between horseplay and bullying is that, horseplay is for fun, for kid to be kids and "play".. where as bullying is so that the [bully] can feel big, and feel like they have control but intimidating the victim. :(

if i were to see horseplay turn into bullying, OF COUSRE id stop it! ALTHOUGH... there are pro's and con's to this question. yes it is bullying and i don't really tolerate bullying.. but then it's not really my bussisnes.. so i wouldn't really know what to do. i mena i would want to stop it, and i prolly would stop it. but that's just something to think about.


to me, it's not ok to be a bystander. just think, how would you feel if you were getting bullied, and there was a bunch o' people and they were all just standin' there watching you get beat.wouldn't you want them to do something to help you.. i no for a fact i would! not only that but 'power in numbers' the reason the bully is"bullying" you is becuase of their self esteem, or problems at home, and any other reason you can think of.. their just picking on you because they can't take it out on a punching bag.. to them you are the under dog.. they do the mena thinks to, that they wish they could do to their parents or [enemies']

STOP THE MADDNESS!!!!!!
BULLYING NEEDS TO STOP!

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chad says... re: reg


i agree. people need to toughen up a little, dont let them pick on you. of course you cant beat a group but you cant let them walk over you.

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Chelsea says..."I think that the difference between bullying and horseplay is completly different. A bully is a person who deliberately intimidates or persecutes those who are weaker. So they try to hurt someone either verbally, sexually or physically on purpse when only one party wants it.
Horseplay is when two or more people are playing rough, boisterous play.
If I were to see horseplay turn into bullyingI would stop it because the horseplay has now gotten out of control and i know that if I was the person who was getting bullied I wouldn't like it very much.
It is alright to be a bystander of horseplay but as soon as it get's out of control (which then it turns into bullying)step in by going to tell a teacher. if you are getting bullied tell a parent or teacher and try to get it solved.

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Chelsea says..."I think that the difference between bullying and horseplay is completly different. A bully is a person who deliberately intimidates or persecutes those who are weaker. So they try to hurt someone either verbally, sexually or physically on purpse when only one party wants it.
Horseplay is when two or more people are playing rough, boisterous play.
If I were to see horseplay turn into bullyingI would stop it because the horseplay has now gotten out of control and i know that if I was the person who was getting bullied I wouldn't like it very much.
It is alright to be a bystander of horseplay but as soon as it get's out of control (which then it turns into bullying)step in by going to tell a teacher. if you are getting bullied tell a parent or teacher and try to get it solved.

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Alexia says...re:reg
I agree that there is prolly the same amount of bullying that there has ever been, but i don't think more ppl complain, its more-so that ppl want to get the fact out that it needs to stop, Infact there are issues with kids not telling and adult that they are being bullied cuz they fear the bully finding out and continuing to bully them.

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Maddi says.....re:chelsey
I totally agree with you about a bystander.I dont think its right that someone has to get bullied,and if you can do something about it than i say go for it.Don't let someone eles suffer.

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Chelsey says...re:Chad
i totally agree with you on when horse play both people know its horseplay and bulling is not something to be proud of just like you said

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To chelsey
I like how you defined horseplay and bullying and I also like how you input you own opinion to the bystander.

Kirstin

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Julie says:
the difference between bullying and horseplay to me is when everyone is having fun and bullying is when only some people are having fun.Most of the time its older kids picking on kids who are younger then them.
if i saw horseplay turn into bullying,me and my friends would try to stop it i think stoping it would be fun!
I think if you see someone getting bullied you should maybe try to stop it and have fun doing it ..just dont bully back.

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Okay, reg is deff right about safety in numbers! As long as you don't take advantage of the fact that you're now bigger than the bully and start to bully him/her... because that makes you even lower than the bully in the first place, so you really have to be careful that's why it's sometimes helps to talk to a parent or teacher [without naming names and such] am i right!?

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what Megan Ruth Haviland to says about bullying...

horse play is when both are laghing and bullying is when the victim is not having fun. to stop bullying you can:
1.dont laugh
2.dont watch
3.dont stay
4.dont get involved
5.be friends to people who are getting bullyed

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Alex says....re: Maddi

Maddi I thought that you really undestood what is the problem with bystanding, and i also felt you deffinetly knew the difference between bullying and horseplay. and I think your right it deffiently does not feel nice to get bullied, no matter if you like them or not!

Great Job Maddi :) !

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whoops btw, that was from shauna! sry :P

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Cass says .. re:reg

what do you mean when you say poeple conplain more then ever about bullying ?

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Maddi says.....re:reg
I somewhat agree with you,but not everyone can just "toughen up".There is cases of bullying were no one can do anything about it.

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COREY says...
I think that difference between bullying& Horseplay is horseplay u are just kidding around with someone or many people but not hurting, bullying is when u r potentially hurting that person either in a verbal way or in a physicall way just to make youself to feel better.If i saw horse play turn into bullying i would try to stop it because it shouldn't get out of hand, u should know when its its getting TOO intense to call it horse play.

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chad says... horse play is when both people know its horse play and bullying is when one person is picking on or physically beating someone. but now it seems that people are stretching what bullying is. i horseplay with my friends a lot. if i saw horseplay turn into bullying, i would walk up to the bully and protect the victim. being a bystander is wrong. you have to stand up for the person being bullied, its not okay to not help.

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Emily says... re: Brit'tney

Very good point. bystanders should do something about it. I know u
know what horseplay is. Bye!

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brit'tney says;
I agree with reg..
I do think that bullying is the same as it has always been but it may be a bit worse because people base EVRYTHING on loooks now..
Bullying is now based more on what you wear..
how your hair is and who you hangout with .

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Alex says...re: Megan

I really liked how you did the list to say how to stop bullying or help out.
I thought that you reallu understood what we are discussing.

Great Job Megan :)!

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reg says: re chelsey I agree if you are a bystander you diserve to be bullied cause wat gos around comes around

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kelsey says ... re:brian

i agree with brian as well, it's not good to be a by stander because it could have been you who was to stop the bullying. and i don;'t think that being a by stander is a good feeling, knowing that you cold have done something to stop it.

but good for you brian.. like u realized that you shold have done something to stopp it.. see it's the sheer regret that get's to you !

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Tim says... Chad i agree with your comment about the fact that bullying is being stretched

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Chelsea says... OMG! bullying is horrilbe and it happens all the time every where asnd noone does anything to stop it! the diff between the 2 is that bullying is 1 person ganging up on the other person that they dislike or hate. or it could be a gang of people. and horseplay is 2 or more peeps both playing with each other and having fun. they both participate in having fun unlike bullying. and yes i would totally stop it because they nit turns out that no one i having fun only the bully i guess. i hate when i hear about horror stories that like happen in the washroom and such. they really freak me out but its going to happen nad you have to be strong enouhg to say stop or tell the person of or in a bad case push or shove. a bystander is a person who is just standing there +and watching one or more people get hurt physically or mentally. if i was to stand there i would defnatley say something or other but im not sure that they would totally listen to every word or even proceess the info and be lime ohh i guess i better stop cuz someone is getting hurt. its horrible OMG i hate it and my heart goes out to all of those poeple who are getting bullied right now . i horse play but it doesnt turn into bullying. to help stop it wwaould be to educate kids about it more. there is a lot of types of bullying like cyber bulliying wich is very popular rightnoe and i can tell you this right now aout 99.9 % or all of the people who type things down would not be able to say them right to that persons face

so please if you see or hear it be lke hey bakc off!! and try to stop it cuz this world would be a better place if we stamp out bullying!!

and yes all those speopl my heart really goes out too all of you peoplee!!!

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Kirstin re:Kelsey

i like how you had the reader think about bullying and that you should do something about bullying but you need to think about the after effects

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Amanda says...
The diffrence is bullying is where 1 kid picks whether it's verbal, sexual, or physical abuse on another and only 1 person is having fun and the other isn't. And horseplay is where 2 kids r just goofing around and they're both having fun. If I saw a
horseplay turn into bullying yes i think i would stop it because i can't stand to see other people pick on littler people just to make them feel better it's just not right. I think that it isn't good to be a bystander and just watch someone pick on another kid it isn't right even if u don't like that person it isn't good to just stand there and think he deserves it no that's not right so get a teacher and get them to stop it.Treat others the way u want to be treated do to others as you would want rthem to do to u. Make a change Stop bullying everywhere make r world a better place for everyone.

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nick says,

i think that bulling is wrong and if u see a fight or someone bully someone that u should tell an adult or teacher so they can solve the problem or come up with an alternative to fighting and make them sort it out differently.

I also think that horseplay and bullying are totally different and that horseplay is fooling around with your friends and hopefully no one willget hurt, but bullying is hurting someones feelings or hurting them phisically and that is wrong.


BULLYING BITES!

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chad says re:emily

i totally agree that horseplay is when people are joking and bullying is when people make fun of their shape, race or their looks. but bullying is being stretched a little bit these days.

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kelsey says... re.reg
reg, ok if your getting bullied and your scared out of your mind, the last thing you'd want to do is have a comeback.. you're just asking for more trouble, this just shows the bully that you are willing to fight, and that show's them to continue on.. so really you're just making a situation worse. and toughen up?? i don't think you would toughen up after the incident... if any thing i'd go tell someone. and i'm sure you would too!

think about it.

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Amanda says re: shauna

I totally agree with you shauna it's not ok to be a bystander stand up to the bully or get an adult.

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Chelsea says... re:
Reg u r absolutely right. But if you got bullied wouldn't you complain?

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chelsea says r.e madi.....
I really like ur paragraphs. you have a lot of info and a true point to get across.

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Chelsea says... re:
Hey, Emily I totally agree with u that horseplay is between friends. Although then that means bullying isn't between friends thats not always true.

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Chelsey says...bullying is NOT cool and it hurts everyone at one time or anouther. it may cause a fight or cause tears but its a horriable thing and if you are a bully than i encourage you to stop and if you are the bullied than i want you to stand up for your self and not be scared... in conclusion...BULLYING BITES!!!

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Alexia says... re:kelsey

I totally agree with you on the fact that you should tell someone, i also agree that the last thing you would want is a comeback that's asking for more trouble

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Julie: ie:reg
reg i think there is more bullying then horseplay. I also think that theres more of a difference other then people complaining more then the other.

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Tim says... re:Emily

I agree that when people are joking that it is oonly horseplay but i also think that horseplay coould also turn into bullying after time

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Olivia says...
Horesplay and bulling are so different. Horesplay is just for fun. No one gets hurt and no one acts truly mean. Bullying is mean and hutful, both mentally and physically. It's an abuse of power and stature.

I don't think that it is right just to stand around when you see bulling. Being a bystander or a witness is just as bad as being the bully, in my opinion. If you see some one being bullied you should stick up for them.

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Amanda says Re: reg

reg good idea if u pretend it doesn't bother u they'll see it's no fun anymore and move on i think that's a great idea!!

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Julie: ie:emily
Emily i totally agree with you !

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CAMERON SAYS.... fight fight fight bully bully bully do wht ever it's fun it's awsome do wht ever makes u happy

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Alexia says...re: cameron

i don't think bullying is fun...maybe horseplay, but it's not supposed to be enjoyable

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jeremy says re jon
jon I think you should add some more to you post. It would mack it beter because you are only saying what horseplay and bulling is not how it effects someone.

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megan says R.E reg...
I disagree. Shure there could be the same amount. just now people are more aware and want mto stop bullying. also being bullid isn't fun and it is a big deal.

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Amanda says re: maddi

maddi your totally right who cares if u and the person don't get alond very much a person is still a person and all people have feelings and if one person's feelings r being hurt it just isn't right so don't be a bystander put a stop to the bullying

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nick says.... regarding amanda

I like your opinion but bullying isn't always 1 person picking on 1 other person it can be any number of people. But I still think it's a good opinion.

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brian says re reg: i think your right theres pretty much the same amount of bullying as theres allways been. just kids complain to there parent alot moor and alot louder!

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megan says R.E. Emily...
I compleatly agree with those statements. they were presise to the point.

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megan says R.E. Emily...
I compleatly agree with those statements. they were presise to the point.

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COREYsays...re:Megan
megan i realy like the list you created, all the things that r recremended on your r totally true.

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Olivia ... re:Reg
I completely agree with Reg, that being that there is safety in numbers. Sometimes if you confront a bully by yourself it may not turn out so well. People also tend to listen to a group of people more than a single person.

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chelsea bening says r.e. cameron....
Cameron i think that what you said was very rude. Its not FUN to see people get hurt, and why do you want to hurt someone like seriously whats it good to you. And dont be soo rude to reg jeez it doesnt matter if its a joke or not. We are supposed to be saying things that we about bullyingand how its bad and should stop not bullying other peopl!!

you just wait until the day that you get bullied.

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adam says...........and some more dots................2 more..they are the same and stuff and such

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nick says re:cameron

I totally disagree because and bullying and fighting is not right
and I don't care if it makes you happy but its still wrong.

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brian says re maddi: i think you're right it really feels really bad to get bullyed and it should be stoped

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adam says re maddi...................... your right

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Greg says...
I think that horseplay is alright until the person dosnt like it anymore and the other person wont stop

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Brittney says;
Like alex said, Horseplay is wanted by BOTH people involved,And youre not actually hurting the person.

If youre actually bullying someone you need to STOP right NOW. Its is not right for a person to have to go through pain for no reason.
You dont have to be bothering the person but you chose to.

If you consider yourself an adult but you are constantly bullying others you honestly shouldnt classify yourself as an adult because that is VERY immature !
GROW UP !!!!

If youre a bystander and you just sit there and let everything happen, youre really no better than the person actually doing the bullying because you could be helping the victime out of the situation but instead you just stand there.. And at sometimes laugh. Its pathetic !
the things people do, to make someone else feel bad about themselves and its probably just to raise there own self esteem .

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Olivia...re:Chad
I agree that bullying is being somewhat streached these days. But with the fine line between bullying and hoseplay it can be hard to define.